What I have come to understand about life is that if you are suffering in some way with a belief or thought pattern, freedom comes by spinning the situation around in your mind like a kaleidoscope and looking at it from a different angle. Often like magic, a doorway to a better feeling place reveals itself. The phrase “love me anyways” offers one of those doorways- a moment of expansion.
The walls of beliefs about your Self can feel like solid concrete and there can seem to be no way out because it is very difficult to argue with old programming or contradict societies standards of what is lovable. The door out of this prison appeared for me the day I no longer engaged in the debate over whether or not these things were true or not- I simply found radical acceptance. So what if all of it was true? I could still love myself anyway and ask that others do the same.
One day a friend told me that he had a terrible disease. I was stunned by the way he said it. No fear of rejection, no shame. In that moment, I was so impacted by the state of freedom that he lived it. He looked me dead in the eye and said it in a way that implored, “love me anyway”. I was intrigued by the reaction within myself. I would've logically thought that someone who was standing within a foot of me and confessed to having one of the worst diseases possible, I would have backed away out of fear or repulsion. Instead, in that moment I felt my heart expand and wanted to embrace him. To be closer. In that moment I suddenly saw how much shame controlled my life and began to wonder what it felt like to experience the freedom that he lived with. I began to realize that no one really even knew me because I lived behind a mask and hid my truth.
Often we hide aspects of ourselves out of fear and shame without realizing these are the aspects that make us the most human and the most lovable. When you open up and begin to share the truth of who you are, some people may fall away but those people were not a true match for you. Relationships that were meant to be deepen and real connection begins.
Love Me Anyways... a thought initiative.
A shift in perspective creates new beliefs, which creates a new experience of the world. LMA is a thought initiative meant to inspire a shift from the dark loneliness of shame to a brighter living space of acceptance and love. One of the most rebellious thing you can do is to embrace all your jagged edges and show up in life as the truest version of yourself. LMA is a reminder that the things that make us the most human are the things that make us the most lovable.
Hooray for spectacular messes...
The more extraordinarily things blast apart the more space there is for the magic to work in the process of reconfiguration, weaving and wrapping around each teeny particle and shifting it into a place it couldn't have found otherwise
I met a woman yesterday who came across one of my tags on the day her mom OD'd. She said she was angry & so hurting but in that moment when the words struck her something shifted, she let it all go and was able to just love her anyway. I think that's the best we can do for each other... believe that everyone is doing their very best even when they are living in the shadows and to love them anyway.
If you're lucky, u will die many times in this lifetime, only to come back with the only 2 things that really matter: fucking fireworks & a twinkle in your eye.